He said he'd joined determined to overcome his intimacy fears but hadn't been moved by any of the women he'd met. I want to hear your voice."He called me that night, and was even smarter and funnier on the phone. "Ever since my father died, I've been terrified to get too close to anyone..." The e-mail was long and apologetic, full of searing self-criticism and shamefaced confessions. While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex. “I think there is this bias that women don’t cheat for sexual reasons at all,” Hertlein says. Having recently tried to find good cybersex myself, I see why it's taking them so long. In the olden days, you could find chat rooms where adults bantered, flirted and seduced one another in a supportive community. People developed relationships that ranged from casual friendship to erotic involvement to love affairs. I haven't flexed that particular muscle in years, and I thought it would be fun to see if I, like Ralph Malph, still got it.
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